More Joy | Less Drama
A celebrity recounted how they celebrated “Friendsgiving” this year instead of Thanksgiving, noting “it was fun to hang out with friends where we could all avoid the drama of family, and nobody even drank that much.”
It’s easy to feel overwhelmed and exhausted by drama, whether it’s external (family, friends, work, etc.) or internal. We can avoid it, we can medicate, or we can grin and bear it.
But what if there is another way? On Sunday we looked at 10 practical tools to help you experience more joy and less drama.
Check out #9 Quit responding in the same way with people who create drama.
Jesus is a great example of this…
Imagine being there: Jesus is healing people. Huge crowds are coming from all over, desperate and hopeful, bringing sick and oppressed people. The religious leaders are plotting to kill him. He has just picked his 12 apprentices. The crowds are so big they can’t even eat a meal in the house.
And the very people you’d expect to support him and lessen the drama (his family), show up to take him away because they think he’s lost his marbles. Would your family believing lies about you and thinking you are crazy qualify as creating drama?
Then Jesus entered a house, and again a crowd gathered, so that he and his disciples were not even able to eat. When his family heard about this, they went to take charge of him, for they said, “He is out of his mind.” Mark 3:20-21
Then Jesus’ mother and brothers arrived. Standing outside, they sent someone in to call him. A crowd was sitting around him, and they told him, “Your mother and brothers are outside looking for you.” Mark 3:31-32
Ok, so how would you respond? Most of us would try to get our family to understand.
“Give me 5 minutes to go out and let my family know what’s really going on. I will convince them I’m fine and then they’ll know I’m pretty amazing, doing all this Messiah-stuff.”
What does Jesus do? He responds differently.
“Who are my mother and my brothers?” he asked. Then he looked at those seated in a circle around him and said, “Here are my mother and my brothers! 35 Whoever does God’s will is my brother and sister and mother.” Mark 3:33-34
Jesus stepped outside the family drama without running away. He defined who He was by stating what He was about. He didn’t try to convince anyone who didn’t want to believe.
So how does that relate to you and me? How can we step outside the drama without running away?
We can ask God to let us know His purpose in our lives. We can reaffirm that purpose (what we know of it) – to ourselves and to others. And we can let go of trying to convince people who want to pull us into drama.
No this doesn’t give us a free pass to do whatever we want and ignore the wise counsel of others. But it does lead to more joy and less drama, internally and sometimes externally.
Imagine Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years with more joy, more Jesus and less drama. It is possible!