“The grass is greener on the other side of the fence…” comes from the idea of looking at a neighbor’s lawn and seeing it as better looking, healthier and overall greener then your own when in reality you’re just ignoring anything negative about it and downplaying everything positive about your own. (urbandictionary.com)
One climate and environmental expert explains this picture of the cows — “The most likely reason the grass is greener is it has more water for some reason.” Brilliant!
For marriage this holds true – the grass is greener where you water it!
A friend turned down a job promotion, telling his boss his family was most important and the new job would have him traveling too much. The boss sat in disbelief, muttering that he respected the decision but couldn’t quite understand. Then he came back later and said they’d like to give him the position and remove the travel requirements…
Another guy took a promotion that involved moving to another state for a few months, away from his wife. He shared his struggles with addictive behavior and how he’d tanked in the same situation before. Several strongly cautioned against going, but he went ahead. Sure enough, months of recovery and rebuilding were required after returning.
One gal was getting bored (with marriage and motherhood), and about that time was invited by old friends to go “clubbing.” What may seem harmless to some, can be a trap to bring destruction. Thankfully, after a few weeks, she ended up responding to some other friends who cared enough to warn her of the potential dangers.
A dangerous temptation is vividly described in Proverbs 5-7.
While I was at the window of my house,
looking through the curtain,
I saw some naive young men,
and one in particular who lacked common sense.
He was crossing the street near the house of an immoral woman,
strolling down the path by her house.
Proverbs 7:6-8 NLT
Strolling down the wrong path is watering the wrong lawn.
I think this truth applies to anything that would draw a person away from watering their own lawn, not just adultery but even something that may appear good like a promotion or opportunity; or greed, ambition, obsession, addiction, etc.
Rather than spending all our time avoiding the “other side of the fence” we are called to pursue what is good, to actively serve and love.
I’m excited to explore how we can water our own lawns in this series.